I will praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Marvelous are Your works, And that my soul knows very well. Psalm 139:14
In
this world you will find that no two people are exactly the same. Even
in the case of identical twins, if you observe their habits and daily living,
you will find they are quite unique. You may notice two red-robin birds
yet if you get closer you will see the color slightly varied. Marriage is not
about a perfect match or how many things you have in common; however, it is
taking two distinct individuals and bringing them into a balanced harmony with
one another. We know that you have realized by now just how different you both
are; therefore, embrace your diversities opposed to seeking to change one
another.
These differences do not have to be a struggle or a distraction in your
marriage. In fact, they should present an opportunity for
enhancement and growth. Your spouse’s unique tastes, interesting habits,
and peculiar preferences are sure to add stimulation to your marriage. It
is not wise to try and influence those harmless and unfamiliar ways about your
spouse to become more like what you are familiar with or what you prefer. However, when you embrace what your spouse brings to the marriage it will create a belonging and shared openness. Try it! In doing so, you just may learn something new
about yourself.
When you open up and invite the uniqueness of your spouse to partner with your
own uniqueness you both will find new and exciting ways to interact with one
another. Furthermore, you will relieve yourself from the stress of trying to
change someone that God didn’t give you permission to change. He holds the
blueprint to your spouse’s make-up and declares it to be distinct. Try not to waste your days, months, and years on negative views that you have formed about your spouse; instead, try
embracing the fact that you are both distinct and irreplaceable.
From Anthony and Patrice Martin
